Am I Oversharing?

Last week, my friend Rabbi Leah Doberne-Schor sent me a great article about how many of us overshare about our kids lives in our blogs and on social media. She included this note: “BTW, I don’t think this is something you’re prone to.”

Well, that’s nice to hear. But I do worry about how much I share about my children, both on this blog and on Facebook. They say that good writing is personal, but I also have to keep in mind that sometime in the not-too-distant future Noah and Evelyn will learn to read, so I need to consider how they will feel about everything I’ve put out there about their lives.

“I think the article picks up on privacy as well as the values of shalom bayit (peace in the house) and lashonhara (gossip). It also has to do with respect for our kids and families—not to air embarrassing stuff in public, not to share what should be private with the whole world,” Leah told me. “It’s something I also struggle with it in my preaching—what and how much to share on the bima—not only of my kids’ lives but mine, too. Often the inspiration for a sermon might be in a struggle or insight I have had in my personal or family life, but that’s not what I share. Sometimes I even wind up with two sermons—the one just for me with all of the personal details and the one to share in public.”

Thinking about this article also reminded me that there’s a very real danger in sharing too much. For instance, child safety experts warn not to post our location when we post photos of our kids because we could unwittingly tell predators their favorite spots in the park and even how to reach their bedrooms. 

When do you think we’re telling too much? What are your worries? Or do you think we’re all overthinking? Leave a comment and join the conversation.